Photographed by Ashton Deroy
Hey guys, so I have actually been working the WordPress space a lot today. I just wanted to create some backlinks to my other work. I am a website publisher who does their CMS projects through WordPress. The Mayb is a portfolio project to grant me freedoms to network in the LGBTQ community. This is something important to me after I was censored by Seneca Pride for the benefit of the Student Seneca Federation. There will be more on that story soon.
Enjoy the Toronto Pride pictures. I added titles & descriptions for the purposes of search engine indexing & humor. Just a Queer with a joint, a camera & a Fiverr account.
The other space I updated today is my medical marijuana journal. Check out the post here.
Is Seneca Newnham Pride enough for the struggling LGBTQ+ students at Seneca campuses? Not unless advertising the college at a Parade is the only need of the campus. In 2017-2018 Ashton Deroy helped the Seneca Pride President & Vice President in trying to make Seneca Pride a more accommodating group to Seneca College. However, there were major roadblocks.
In May 2018, Ashton Deroy was dismissed from the Seneca Pride team as the secretary after two years split between an executive and volunteer web coordinator position. In this interview, Diana Skye will ask questions about the dissolve, the state of the group, and Seneca Student Federation. On May 27th Diana Skye called Ashton Deroy over VoIP to get the details of this interview.
Why did you get involved with Seneca Pride?
I wanted to meet a guy, it sounds cliche, right? Just that I thought this would be a great place to meet my potential boyfriend. What I ended up finding instead? This was my purpose for working with the group which was helping LGBTQ+ plus people with activism, resources, and politics.
How did you help Seneca Pride during your time there? What did you hope to achieve with the group?
With Seneca Pride, I donated my web design graduate certificate from St. Lawrence college as I manage the group’s social media, website and event promotion. What I did is make sure things didn’t go static as often as I could. I was often working hard to manage this dovetailed with other obligations like reaching out to new business clients, starting our first SEO project the Toronto-Businessphere and managing the business school courses. However, I was passionate about connecting students with the Seneca Pride/Out&About resource.
What was the impact of Seneca Pride becoming part of the Seneca Student Federation?
At first, this was a really positive alliance and indexing. However, over time the SSF has shifted to a more fascist & authoritarian style of management you see this with the high regulation on SSF student government campaigns. This trickled down to our group in my dismissal, I posted an opportunity for students to use me as a reference to get involved with my current employer. At this job, they would have made $15 then $16 an hour. This was my way of addressing the income inequality issue faced by LGBTQ+ students. This was the event that leads to my dismissal due to a policy that considered this outside promotion of another employer. This will not be considered valid to me. I consider it student censorship.
What happened after you were dismissed from Seneca Pride? How do you see the group going forward without your services?
I’ve had people tell me they can manage it all without me. The truth is the President for 2018 was almost never there because of her outside involvements which often lead to the group devolving into chaos. The new president for the next school year left the group in 2017 as soon as she had a girlfriend and was never very much help at all after that. I think the future is bleak because you have an executive team that operates a clique and rejects foreign ideas. The censorship they are committing is directly going to interfere with the group being considered a safe space and should directly impact their ability to have office space.
Diana Skye says: Thank you for your time, Ashton. I think that you joined Seneca Pride with the best intentions. However, I cannot say the same for the leaders of the group and the Seneca Student Federation. It appears that they do not like dissenting opinions since they are micromanaging everything. I agree that their future is bleak. They will have more issues if they do not change their approach.
Ashton Deroy concludes: I also want to say during my time at Seneca College. I have suffered from PTSD as a result of an ex-abusive relationship. Not only was I barely able to share in Seneca Pride, but I was quite easily outcast and isolated. There was a video I recorded for the counseling department that says how much this group helped with my depression. Well, it is a good thing I got a medical marijuana prescription because the last communications I had with the Seneca Pride executives were all triggering! Fortunately thanks to the help of the counselors alone. I will be connecting with the 519 group in Toronto for LGBTQ+ counseling within the community.
Written by Ashton Deroy:
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Hey, so you’ve connected to my webspace because there is a lot to see. I am an ex-ad salesperson with an adventurous entrepreneur’s spirit & a tech support person’s continuing curiosity. I often get asked, how did you begin your journey as a designer? Believe it or not, I am not going to talk about college here. I actually used to organize the bulletin boards of promotional music for Riverside Music in 2013-2014.
It was actually here when I was a punk kid where my manager told me she thought I had the spirit of an artist. Of course, I disregarded it, pretended it was just something older people said to teenagers. Was she ever right though? Her name was Maggie and she gave me the best co-op experience I’ve ever had high school or college.
When we were struggling with our home lives in 2013, Maggie would invite us to after-school events at the Riverside Music. So I and my brother could escape to the sound of music and remember for a minute, we are just teenagers. The weight of the world does not need to be on our shoulders. Amongst the artists/musicians & the counterculture youth groups was always where my brother & I felt most at home. As two gay youth in the small town of Quinte West.
Written by Ryley James
Anonymous request for advice from Ryley,
“My sister who is bisexual and a teen is experiencing a rebellious phase with marijuana misuse. Do you have any experience in this area?”
While I did go through a rebel phase (it is hard not to with parents who don’t particularly support or care about who you are), I never did drugs or anything like that. I was more concerned about how I was going to pass my classes and pay for school and the rest of my generalized anxiety disorder. I was never doing drugs, and by the time I was in a place both mentally and physically where I could have tried it, I was in a safe space where I could successfully weigh the pros and cons of the situation. I decided that it was better to leave the smoking to my friends who did that than to try it myself. For me, my rebel phase was more about my body and what I looked and felt like.
As soon as I could do so without consequences, whatever I could do to make my parents uncomfortable with who I was and what I looked like, I took that chance. I got my first facial piercing the moment I got out of high school, I dyed my hair strange colors as soon as physically possible after graduation, I got my lip pierced soon after and my first tattoo for the same reasons. Even now I pick my clothing not only based on what will make me feel good about myself, but what would have my parent’s telling me am not allowed to leave the house until I put on something more conservative. Even if I didn’t do the same thing she is doing, I did go through the same phase, and I probably felt similar things to what she is feeling.
I had been living in a space where I felt like I was confined to a role I didn’t fit, and as soon as I had the means and the space to do so, I changed something I could control so that even if I had to
continue living that role I could do so knowing I was living it my way.
Rebellion itself (be it mine or that of any historical or literary context) has always been about control;I wouldn’t doubt that her’s is too. If I am correct, she is doing this as a way to take back control of her life during a time when she feels like she doesn’t have control. The best thing for you to do in that situation, is to take a step back and just let her do it.
Let her feel in control of what happens to her, and don’t be high and mighty if things go south.
Don’t try to lecture her on safety, don’t try to insert yourself into the situation, don’t try to steer her decisions. It is scary, yeah, because when it comes to keeping her safe there really isn’t much you can do with a hands-off approach, but in the long run not only will it be better for her to have these mistakes and victories under her belt, but it will be better for your relationship too.
If she comes to you for help, hear her out like an adult. Listen to her problem, help her look into solutions, and if she picks a solution that you wouldn’t go with but ultimately won’t end up hurting herself or others, don’t try to shut her down or steer her away from it. Don’t treat her like a child. Treat her like a person who can make informed decisions, because that is what she is.
More likely than not she knows more about her situation than you think she does, and even that you do. She is bound to make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean that she is uninformed or doesn’t know what her situation is. You can be there to catch her if she falls even if she doesn’t want you there to help her every other step of the way.
Be a safety net, not a strait jacket, because that is what she needs right now.
Hey so I am not following the Seneca Newnham Pride channels. So I do not know if they have even touched on these. To learn why I am not following the Seneca NewnhamPride channels click here. However this is a list of Transgender inclusion workshops being done at Seneca College’s campuses.
Embedded below are the Campus Google Maps Locations.
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This piece is preserved as First Nations Mohawk Art. 2020-09-12.
My kid sister wanted to put something up on the website. As I said it is good to put things on your website that makes you happy. I often miss my family back home in Quinte West, but I am glad I have this painting to remind me of them. If they read this I love them and I can’t wait to see them next. Posted from North York Ontario 6:08am 5/31/2018.
Today on 6/3/2018 I modified the art to get it digitally ready. The thing about a good piece of art is that it is never truly finished. I love the painting but I knew I could make it digitally great. Thanks so much Ashley you know I love working with you.
We are now developing the business plan for S.W. Agency. This is an exciting endeavor with in our network of freelancers that I have connected with both in person and over Fiverr.
At this time we have my sister Ashley working on a project to do artwork for my personal blog. Diana Skye is now developing her Fiverr shop that will be linked on this page as soon as it is ready. There is likely to be a higher output of the business this year than there was the year before. So lets get excited for everything happening!
Ashton Deroy Writes: My Depression was hitting me hard in April, as it usually does and I needed to have my spirits lifted. Alana Skye to the rescue again! She took me bowling in Newmarket and we annoyed some people as we always do. It was a great time. I am lucky to have some of the greatest friends & family imaginable. I hope you get a kick out of our bowling video below.
Another update: We are now in the planning phases of launching a personal sales business for print and digital promotion. Get in touch with me for more details at Ashtonderoy@gmail.com
WWE misses the mark from time to time on creating solid hero characters. I do not think this is what happened with Ronda Rousey… However, with characters like Roman Reigns & Bobby Lashley you can see that WWE does not know what they are doing. Why isn’t Lashley getting cheered? Look at these cringe-worthy story points. 3
Believe it or not I actually like Lashley. I am just not insane, he does not meet the formula of a good character at the moment. That does not mean hope is lost. Maybe if you put him on a heel run or throw him in a feud with Brock Lesner, he can get to that next level. Just if I am a writer I am not exploring the Lashley & Strowman tag team for very much longer. There is nothing there chemistry wise. It is just two big men, “meh” typical WWE team.
Picture by Diana Skye, Parliament building, and some beautiful Canadian nature.
Someone at work said to me Canada has no tradition, we have no culture, we are a weak standard of traditions. Say that to my aunt who is a sergeant in the army, tell that to Diana who has been to other countries and still prefers Canada. Yes, we have another birthday party coming up and yes I intend to really share my passions about this country over the next few weeks on this blog. I used to live by the Kingston, Ottawa & Montreal area in 2015 and I left it to conquer my issues with drug addiction. I semi conquered those issues today.
As of now, I am reading the most Canadiana book I have ever read. It is Common Ground by Justin Trudeau, one of the heroes I blogged about in 2017. There is so much wonderful culture in this book. From Justin Trudeau training boxing in a gym in Quebec,
Right now I am at the 100-page mark of the book & not many of you know this about me. 100 pages are where I decide whether I will put a book down or not. I hate to say it, but 100 pages are where I used to put down a lot of books. This is not happening with the Justin Trudeau booked and story. I am hooked & ready to keep learning more about our prime minister.